A report released last month said more than 200,000

“House shaming is actually how designers kind of get business,” Randolph said. “A client will go over to another home that’s professionally designed and they’ll be like, ‘Oh my gosh, my house isn’t that nice.’ They then seek out an interior designer.”Randolph, in Greenville, South Carolina, said interior designers themselves are just as vulnerable. So are exhausted parents with

, people who just don’t love to clean, those who can’t afford, or folks who really have a lot of books and/or love collectibles.“I’ll do an Instagram post of an amazing, immaculately decorated house and I go, ‘Wow, my house stinks,’” said Randolph. “And everyone walks into my home and tells me how amazing it is. At the end of the day, I’m still human and I still get trapped by the devil of comparison.”

Remembering one’s humanity in a world where true perfection is elusive goes a long way, he and other experts noted.Not wanting to entertain at home can simply mean spending time together elsewhere, in restaurants, at the theater or in the homes of others, for instance. But it can also

or other traumatizing behaviors like losing the will to clean.

“I have a friend who refuses to have people over because she’s so ashamed of her house,” Randolph said.months later to charges of false imprisonment and battery involving three women. He was sentenced to three months of home confinement and three years of probation. The city of San Diego spent more than $1 million to settle multiple lawsuits filed by women.

He had held the office for less than nine months of a four-year term after becoming San Diego’s first Democratic mayor in 20 years.Born Sept. 4, 1942, in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, Robert Earl Filner waded into politics as a sophomore at Cornell University, when he joined the Freedom Riders in the 1961 in their campaign against a segregated South. He spent two months in a Mississippi jail for inciting a riot after he and others confronted an angry mob at a bus station.

In 1970, he accepted a position at San Diego State University, where he taught history for more than 20 years before running for a seat on the San Diego Unified School District Board of Education.He went on to be elected to the City Council and then U.S. House of Representatives in 1992 as a progressive Democrat who fought for veterans, underserved communities and labor unions. As chair of the House Veterans Affairs Committee, he also helped secure $200 million to provide pension benefits for Filipino veterans who served in World War II as part of the 2009 stimulus bill.